Baby can’t self soothe
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Same here!
Same here, but holding to sleep he’s waking 20 mins, 50 mins, 30 mins, 1hr! I’m exhausted 😩 I’m trapped can’t get him to SS and don’t want to hold to sleep either and when I have managed to get him to sleep in his crib patting and shushing I still have to go and get him back to sleep constantly too. At a loss (my first was so easy with SS, beginning to think some babies just dont do it)
Same! I have to rock my baby to sleep but he will wake within 30-45 minutes and then impossible to get back to sleep in his crib. Will only sleep in my bed but now we’ve hit the regression he wakes every hour 😩 no idea how to teach him as he also gets so distressed.
Personally I don't think you are doing anything wrong, some babies will just take longer to figure out their sleeping. We rock to sleep but sometimes she actually wants to go in her basket to fall asleep not often though! I'm giving her more time to work on it as we're still in regression. We're all doing our best!! Jx
Glad to know it’s not just me 🙏
A 4 month old can’t self soothe unfortunately. Some at this age can self settle but many can’t. My girl is off and on, sometimes she will and other times she just can’t. I’ve been trying to get her to sleep for 50 minutes now, she is just laying on my bed calm and relaxed but just not able to fall asleep. That is how I started getting her to do it though, just putting her next to me on my bed and then the last few days I’ve been putting her into her next to me for naps but same again, sometimes she will fall asleep and other times she won’t
Ferber method, we’re on day 4 and have had 4 amazing nights once he’s fallen asleep! It’s rough to listen to the screaming tho 😞 x
Same :/
@Ellie is your lo 4 months? I've read that ferber shouldn't be used until at least 6 months?
@Ellie can you please share more about your experience 🥺 I’m considering it too
You’re not doing anything wrong. Some babies take to it straight away, others need a lot of practice and others just need time . Don’t beat yourself up x
You’re not doing anything wrong. And neither is your baby. There’s so much out there about self soothing but this just isn’t something that is innate to most if not all babies. They seek closeness and comfort and don’t have the regulation abilities to self soothe at 4 months. My daughter who is 2.5 years still struggles sometimes. You can for sure try a sleep training method like feber as mentioned above. I personally chose not to sleep train etc and just let my first daughter use me as comfort for as long as she needed, I’m taking this approach this time too. It can be exhausting but I find comfort in knowing that it’s all biologically normal and having come through the other side once before I know it doesn’t last forever 🤍! You’re doing great and I hope you find what works for you! X
@Shelly yes he’s 4 months, it says online it can be started then 😊
@Youss feel free to message with any questions! x
He has a dummy, I play white noise, I have him something that smells of me, I don’t know what more I can do!