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Put it this way. If you had 2 people go through the same exact haunted house, you’d have 2 different stories. Each of you would have different traumas that would stick out to you even though you went through the same thing. Yours might have been the clowns and ghost, and his might have been creepy dolls and the freaky animals. BUT YOU BOTH WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING you also cant heal someone else’s trauma by showing them how you got through your own trauma because we all have different coping mechanisms

They are actually trained in ways to help people cope and understand their situation/feelings and work deeply through issues. Someone who has been through something *similar* (no situation is ever the same - how many women go through SA or DV? It doesn’t play out the same ever) may not be able to keep their own emotions out of the equation and may bring up significant trauma/lingering consequences. Therapists are trained to remain professional and give rational advice. Whereas a person who went through something similar may not be so objective and has the capacity to involve others or share your information and there are specific laws prohibiting this within a professional setting. I’d compare it to like asking a mate to use web md and then self medicating as opposed to going to an actual doctor and getting the right diagnosis and treatment. Or a way your partner might understand Asking a gym go-er for advice as opposed to going to a professional trainer

unbias opinion

Thank y’all sm!!!

Not to sound mean by this is stupid. Just because someone is going through the EXACT ADAME SITUATION as you, they will process shit differently. They will have biases on what you should or shouldn’t do based on their life experiences. Therapist have to be ethical but will have a vast range of ways to help you overcome whatever issues. Talking to someone who’s experienced what you’re going through is cool. It makes you feel less alone and you can confidently talk about it without feeling like “this is too much for them” “I’ll be negatively labeled”. Ect. But to use that as your own form of “help”…..i wouldn’t recommend it. Therapist go to school and learn to guide people through difficulties. They also look out for signs of danger and an individual who’s suicidal. They have quality training. They had to be certified (passing state exams to continue holding a license). They can provide resources and references that perhaps an individual who is well meaning but simply can’t be of help

Plus, with a therapist you can detach and everything is confidential. They don’t intermingle into your life. Talking to a stranger or friend …whatever you say might be shared. Yea, even with their sisters or partner. With a therapist you can always stop seeing them (announced or unannounced) for whatever reason. When you have a close connection to the individual you’re seeing and sharing very detailed, sensitive and confident info with them it can get mucky. It bleeds into other parts of your friendship. And let’s hypothetically say you’re in a fight or the friendship just dissolves…what now. Who do you now talk to. Your therapist is typically always there (minus short term leave, retirement or new company). But therapist, this line of work, is not a revolving door. They typically stay put and work with said individual for years to come.