Visit or not visit

You're definitely not wrong

Just because it's family people automatically think you have to allow and give them a free pass to treat you right because they are 'family' at the end of the day. If it was a friend ignoring you ect people would usually say just leave them until they make an effort. The same should apply for family. If you've been trying to make an effort and they haven't I'd leave then to it until they reach out. There's only so much you can do. I too am in the same situation, and I've just left it to them, I won't continue to put in effort with people who don't do the same.

You do what you think is right.

I wasn’t gonna tell me dad but he texted me on my birthday asking what I was doing and it came up I gave birth a few hours ago. None of my siblings from him know either. I’m not sure if they know about the first. I’m really big on if we don’t speak regularly more than just a text on birthdays/holidays I don’t owe you information about my life. Family or not you find out if and when anyone else does. I’ve grown up with a lot of poor relationships with my immediate family and not feeling important to them so I’ve made them less important to me.

@R 🪬 I feel the same. I feel like I put so much effort in and the fact they dont even check in with me during my pregnancy shows a lot about them and how I need to move forward.

@Khyia I like what you said at the end because thats how I feel too. Relationships that I have prioritized but its not reciprocated have really pushed me to do my own thing.

@Khyia Did you end up telling your siblings about the birth?