Looking for a go to nice Name instead of vagina to teach my little girl...

Honestly I think cutesy names for it makes it weirder. I'd stick with vagina or "private area"

I just tell my girl there’re her bits but I do think it’s important to not name them flouncy things incase there’s ever a bad situation

With my son his privates we call his "winky" he is very aware what his winky is and that it's where wee wee comes from and that no one should touch his winky, god forbid but if there was ever a bad situation he would be able to tell us something had happened but just by saying his winky instead of penis, I don't think it would effect his ability to communicate x Unless I'm misunderstanding what you're trying to say? X

We use vulva because it just feels more accurate. I read somewhere that using cute nicknames can mean caregivers might misunderstand if a kid is trying to explain there's a problem.

The thing is there have been court cases where pedos have gotten away with charges against them because the children didn't use the proper names when describing where they were touched. Honestly it's better to teach them the correct anatomical name and not make it a big deal

You should really use the anatomically correct name for genitals. In a safeguarding capacity, it is paramount. There have been instances noted where child sexual abuse has been missed because the child disclosed what was happening using a cutesy name. For instance, the child tells her teacher that her uncle played with her button (vagina/vulva) at the weekend which is a seemingly innocent sentence compared to if she had used the correct term. It can also be argued in court (if child sexual abuse happens) that the child doesn’t know what they’re talking about because they don’t know the correct names for their body parts and are just confused.

@Donna Woods I agree with you correct terminology is key seen so many psychologists talk about it and maybe vulva might me easier on your ears to begin with

We used nunu

In the nicest way this is ALOT of unsolicited advice, if anyone has any name suggestions as I have requested it would be very much appreciated. As a child that was groomed I do not need to be informed of these things, I am more aware than most trust me and it is my decision to make as her mother, I would always pick a name where it couldn't be mistaken for anything else, hence winky for my son it literally could only mean penis that is very clear but you all haven't even given me the chance to see other names.

I say vagina or peepee

Vulva. It's literally what it's called 🤷 just like an arm or a leg, we just used the actual name

We said To-Pee when growing up. (When I got older I realized it was like you use that part “to pee” from) Imagine my surprise the first time I read the word “toupée” in a book and I was like damn there’s a private part on this guy’s head. 🤣😅

Because that would be terrible advice 🤷🏻‍♀️ No one has given you a cutesy name because that is unsafe and an awful idea.

@Donna Woods so If you don't like it and don't have any suggestions move past the post, you will never agree with everything every other parent does but does it make it your decision? No it doesn't

No one has given other names because "penis" has many well-known alternatives while "vagina" does not (at least not in a non-sexual way)

i don’t think you’re gonna find any other suggestions on here. why not just call it what it is?

When I was younger we all called it a foof, though I will say from working in a school and doing safeguarding training the advocate for the correct terminology incase of any disclosures made for abuse x

Right, no more unsolicited advice please! I myself was abused as a child and threatened not to tell anyone that they had touched my "VAGINA" the only way I was brave enough to tell anyone and be saved was to call it something else, a "CUTESY NAME" believe it or not! When it goes through the courts and police interviews if there is any confusion about what the child means or where, they get the child to point out and show what happened with dolls, trust me I know! You're seriously under some sort of delusion that naming it the correct thing is magically going to keep your children safe, shocker it's not! Aslong as the child knows where their privates are and have some sort of name for them so they can communicate about them and know that they shouldn't be touched it's the best you can do! Every parent has there reasoning for everything and this is mine! Not that I should have to explain myself to anyone. Keep your know it all but yet know jack comments to yourself!

Sadly, you’re not the only one that has been abused. And not every story is the same 🙄 Some of us have actual experience and have experienced supporting children through this process. Using the correct terminology may not save them but it can, and does, stop the abuse quicker than not using it. But, it’s cool, you don’t want to listen. Nor learn anything. And want to be rude to people giving you good advice on child safety.

@Donna Woods do you not realise that not all cases are the same? A child being able to say the word vagina may help some but it will not help all, the same as a child being able to identify their privates by a cutesy name will save some but not all, there isn't a one rule, one name saves every child and you're acting like a child being able to say vulva and vagina is the only right thing to do when it is not, aslong as a child can identify that body part regardless of name they are the same level of safe or unsafe, they're all indentifying terms! If they have a name for it, know where it is on their bodies and know that it shouldn't be touched whether it's called a vagina or a bloody fanny isn't going to make them any safer! Both would still be able to communicate the same!

Call it what it is, a vulva

Minky, Minnie, Fanny? I use dinkle for my boy. I don’t agree with the other comments on here, I think as long as you don’t use a word that could be for something else (like button, flower etc) it’s fine

Just teach your child proper anatomy. Its not complicated. It's not sexual. It's what it's called. You don't change the names of their arms or legs. Its a vagina and a penis.

You’re saying it would be something people would only know as a vagina (like you did for your son) but you literally said you were going to refer to it as her daisy at the start. If a child told their teacher for example that someone touched her daisy, it’s can easily be misconstrued. People are only trying to offer advice! Sorry you were harmed as a child, it’s awful

I’ve heard of Willies and Lillies

Why do you people care what she has her daughter call her private parts? You teach yours, and she can teach hers. This isn’t immoral

@🔮Angela🔮 yes it's what I thought I would call it before becoming a mother years ago as i had heard others using it...things change, that was my thought before even ever becoming pregnant, I now have 2 children, things change when you become a parent, I'm sure there's certain things you thought you would/wouldn't do before becoming a mother which have changed when you actually had a child and experienced daily being a parent. How you think things will be before becoming a parent and how they actually end up being are two completely different things. Was just being light hearted and sharing a bit of back story as I find it amusing that of all the names thats the name my cat ended up with, hence the laughing emoji.

Nope. You should be teaching your children their correct names for their anatomy. The “cutesy” names are not it.

With my daughter, we called it the 'front butt' lol. Then, she switched to coochie as she got older. When I was a kid, my mom called it tookie. 🤷‍♀️

@Lex very bold of you to tell a stranger what they SHOULD and shouldn't do, I didn't realise it was your decision.

@Kayla "front butt's" a good one tbf I hadn't thought of that one, thank you for your suggestions 😊 x

@Kayla "front bum" is defo a contender, I like that, thank you x

We use front bum. Purely because my 2.5yr old can't pronounce vagina properly yet

I also think front bum can't be misconstrued as anything else

In regard to child’s safety I don’t think you can be too bold 🤷🏼‍♀️. Teaching kids about bodily anatomy is extremely important. As why I said you SHOULD and not ‘you HAVE to’. It’s 100% your choice to have her call it whatever, though it’s important for kids to know their anatomy properly.

I talk to both my girls (2 and almost 5) about their girl parts. I'm starting to use "vagina" with my older daughter, but for me, "girl parts" feel specific enough for their ages

My suggestion would be to use the actual word. It’s safer when we talk about body autonomy and also plays a role in preventing sexual abuse. Obviously these are things no one wants to think could happen but as someone who is a marriage and family therapist, it really can make a difference not only as a child but feeling comfortable in your sexuality growing up.

This is such a dick reply to people who were only putting your child’s best interests first. Grow up.

I have spoken to my partner and we have decided on "front bum" thank you to those who made suggestions as requested 😊

@Sera Kay ✨ it's nice for strangers to give unsolicited advice, everyone thinks their judgement about everything matters to everyone but guess what unless its asked for your opinions really dont mean anything to another mother online :) its lovely for people that don't know me or my child to assume they know what is best for my child 👍 and that they think their opinion should be pushed onto me, I am entitled to my own opinion about my child as you know the real life relationship not online judgement is what matters, I can live how I want with my child and if you don't think i can or it makes me a dick for being so, I really couldn't care any less hun, just how your involvement in this post you felt necessary to also pass unnecessary judgement so I guess we're all just dicks really ain't we hun ❤️

😂 ok

As long as they know it's called a vagina then sure use a "cuter" name. I used to call it Minnie. But please do make sure they know it's correct terms. For the just incase purposes of if in the hopefully never occasion they are SA or worse they can actually say vagina or no court will take the case seriously and it will get dropped

I always used the word ‘Minnie’ too. No idea where it came from that’s what I always said & when I was of age I changed naturally to saying ‘vagina’ ❤️ xx

My girl says gina. Like vagina. It’s enough that people know what she is talking about when she says it.

I might sound very outdated here, but I figured everyone taught their little ones to call it a peach 😂 that’s how I grew up and that’s what my nieces were taught too and for my son and nephews we taught them there’s is called a winky as they get older they will learn new words for it anyway

Children get taught PANTS (google it) at nursery from the age of 3! Call it whatever you want. My daughter calls it her pee pee. She knows about safety and that doesn’t change whatever you decide to call it. Knowing if is a vagina, peach, pee pee, Minnie makes no difference in sexual abuse

Personally I’d teach her the correct wording because god forbid if anything happened to her then she would be able to explain exactly what happened and where, cute names for privates can land them in trouble if a situation like SA was to ever happen. I’ve always taught my daughter to use the word vagina for it so I know exactly what she means if anything was to happen and also medically too x

I have a boy, we are calling it his winky or willy. And when we were younger we called ours our peepee. Hope that helps.

When I was younger I had a cat called "Tilly", my cousin asked me why I'd named my cat after a ladies private parts... so there's that 🤣 You could also use front bum, Minnie, lady bits, peach, privates. You do what's right for you and your LG. When she is older you can always teach the correct terminology! My mum was a foster carer and looked after several sexually abused children and it's heartbreaking to see the results/impact it has on them years later. I hope that you're OK now and always hear if you ever need to talk! X

I think this is something that depends a lot on age - for safeguarding when little one is in schools etc it’s important for them to know the correct terminology and about bodily autonomy HOWEVER my parents always used “Minnie” with me and my siblings - but we were aware of what the actual names were for all body parts if needed. My little girl is only 3 months but when we clean her we say “let’s clean your foofy” lol. I will probably take the same approach as my mother did as well x