BD refusing paternity test

So much drama with the bd, he cheated the whole pregnancy, lies to my face, smear campaigns against me. I am having a baby with a man with narcissistic personality disorder. At this point I told him he doesn’t have to help me raise our baby due April, but he needs to provide child support. His response was “you’ll have to prove I’m the father to get child support”. So has anyone dealt with this before? I don’t want to put him on the birth certificate because I’ve heard that gives him rights such as if we go on vacation, he has the right to say the baby cannot come. I don’t want to give him that power. How do I make sure he provides child support if he won’t take the paternity test? Ugh 😩 I also want full custody so he can’t try to take my baby later down the road because that seems like something he would do. I’m just at such a loss. Never imagined my life to be this way 😭

Show your support

My best advice is to call an attorney in your area

If you file for child support he will get parental rights. Just go to court and add in the custody agreement what you want like being able to travel

You can look up child support office and there should be some place near you that pops up, call the number they have and explain that you want to get information on filing child support and getting a paternity test. They should be able to help you from there. Good luck!!!

Dm me love 💞💞

Once you establish paternity he will be able to add himself of the birth certificate. I always feel like it’s good to add the dad to the birth certificate because if he passes away you won’t have trouble receiving social security and benefits right away if something was to happen. Long as you breast feed or say your breast feeding he cannot take the baby overnights to around 2 years old. But child support and custody/visitation are two different courts

Not sure where you're based incog, I'm in the UK, but solicitor is your best bet. They will be able to order a paternity test. He will also have to pay for it if it comes back that he is the father given that he's refusing responsibility (or at least that's what it was like 20 years ago, could have changed, do some research).

Go get the paperwork done for child support. If he doesn’t show on the court date, the judge usually forces the title on him, even without the paternity test.

@Margarita so good to know thank you

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