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Our kids have our names double barreled, and we each have kept our own names for now cause like you we are not engaged/married. If we did get married then we would both change our names to match the kids double barrel, which is my surname-his surname just because that's the way that sounded better. We're not hyped up about marriage, it's not a big deal to us, but we have already pre-decided this situation with the names for when we eventually do. In my 3.5 year olds nursery class there are not many double barrel names tbh, I think there are 5 or less in a class of 90 kids (it's not 90 kids in 1 room, it's the numbers between rooms and between 15 hour kids and 30 hour kids) It's deffo more common than when I was in school but really not so common in our lives so far
Very common, I was in a similar situation myself but said it’s my name or double barrelled. I refused to give my baby my partners last name only as we’re not married. He expressed that we will get married which I don’t doubt but I want my baby to have my name too. Also my name is double barrelled
When baby is born automatically will have your last name only as you’re unmarried. When you’re ready to officially register only then his name will be involved if that’s what you choose! Plus I work in a school so it’s very common xx
We’re also double-barrelling due to us not being married, and my older two (previous relationship) both have my surname. When we get married we’ll also double-barrel our names to match baby’s, and so then I don’t have a completely different surname to my older two. However, although it’ll be double-barrelled for official documents etc, baby’s ’known as’ name will just be Dads surname for ease when it comes to him learning to write his name etc (my surname is quite long and I often get asked for clarification on how to spell it) x
I’m married but kept my maiden name. My son has my surname (Harrison) as a middle name
@Tori I also have a friend who did this. Unmarried couple, child took mum’s surname, and had dad’s surname as a middle name.
Me and my partner are not married and we are expecting our first baby and I have 0 intentions of my surname being involved in any of my children’s names because how I was raised was that the children always has the dads name regardless of the relationship… of course if the dad didn’t want any relationship with his child and didn’t want to be on birth certificate or take responsibility then that’s the only time a child will have my(mum) surname
It’s a lot more common these days to double barrel, but it’s def personal choice, and def not something that should be stipulated. I personally wouldn’t, but only cos I think it makes it longer/harder to spell your name/enter your name in forms etc. I also have a REALLY common surname, so don’t have any ‘attachment’ or regret with it not being passed down in my family. However I know for some people that’s a huge thing.