Can you love your children and hate being a parent at the same time?
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The expectation vs reality of being a parent hit me hard. I thought having kids would be easy, but my supercharged 3yo leaves me exhausted and tired of hearing my own voice by the end of the day 😂 I do love my child but it’s not quite the wholesome experience I was hoping for!
Ngl I feel like this sometimes but i absolutely love my daughter
@Brianne that’s a great way to put it. You do feel like you lose your your identity. I feel like I forgot what my personality used to be like. I feel like I’m just sort of living. I desperately want to work again, just to be an adult. You know what I mean? But where I live the daycare’s are absolutely horrendous. I’m really glad they made this poll. I feel a lot less crazy!
I’m ngl I miss my life before my baby was born, I miss my relationship, friendships, I can go on & on. However, I cannot imagine life without my son now that he is here. I love my baby so much & he is everything to me. It’s days when I dread being a mom but it’s some days that’s all I have to keep me going. Like I told my bf last night I have a love hate relationship with motherhood.
Specifically when it’s 5 am and I have work and he’s not going back to sleep and he’s crying and it’s way too early to wake up because I work until 11pm so if I wake up early I won’t last at night for work
I think it's definitely normal. When we become mothers we lose our identities for a while and sometimes forever. Maybe you can talk to your partner about working out some time for you to find yourself again. Maybe start up a new hobby. Give yourself a little independence and separation from the family to remember you are your own person as well as part of the family. ❤️❤️