Friendships

It's easy for them to not care. I feel like a burden with kids. Moved a little bit further away as was nicer to raise my kids and had this big discussion about still seeing each other and visiting both ways. With one it never happened and they didn't even remember when I came to visit them until I turned up (they made other plans). The other has other things going on and it just doesn't happen.

Sounds like I’ve been lucky as there has been no change to my friendships really; my friends just love babies so it’s been easy going. I’ve been meeting up with new Mum and baby friends too which has been great to chat about the events of motherhood to people who understand, maybe try baby groups to meet Mum friends? (If you haven’t already that is.)

Wish I'd had better luck with baby classes. Find them really difficult. Normally, just me and baby chatting away to each other.

I lost a lot of my friends who hadn’t already had kids. I think they may have felt we didn’t want to see them as we were less available and less flexible trying to work around naps and bedtimes. But over the years I’ve made new friendships through classes, nursery and now school. It really sucks to lose friends but ultimately they perhaps weren’t long term friendships if they were needing a lot of maintenance to stick around for you.

Never used to see my friends much before the baby anyway, we meet a few times a year but that’s normal for us, But my friend was actually my birthing partner and she cut the chord!