Can’t Write

First time mom here EBFing a 3 month old, having a hard time finding the time and mental energy to sit down and write. It’s just so discouraging and I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. It feels like I’ll have no more time for years to come. Any other writers or creative professionals here who have experienced something similar and made it out on the other side? How long did it take you to regain your writing practice? Looking for some advice and encouragement that I will get some time back eventually!

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The first few months are going to be the hardest from what I’ve experienced/heard but once they get older and more into a routine you will have your own personal time again. Everyone has writers block even people with out kids. Just give it time momma you’ll get your grove back <3

Not in your position but could you make voice notes for later? at 3 months old your baby just enjoys your voice and doesn't really understand what you are saying so you can act as though you're talking to baby (i.e. baby talk) but be making voice notes of things to write later so you aren't totally missing the creative flow

I would just focus on baby. Hobbies and careers will come later. This season of life is in the thickness of all things baby. Embrace it. I stopped breastfeeding at 8 months for my mental health. Like others have said you will get your grove back.

@Sarah this is such a good idea! I’m going to look into transcription apps :)

@Allison unfortunately i’m in a place in my career where I have already committed to long term projects and have to deliver on them or risk burning bridges.

@Janessa thank you!

I'm a full time author. It's HARD, not gonna lie, especially at the beginning. I was offered a book contract the same week I found out I was pregnant with my oldest, and had to confirm the final draft of the book when he was 3 months old, so I did everything from the initial writing through editing while pregnant and with a newborn. That was by far the toughest thing of my career so far, and if I hadn't already signed the contract before realizing how hard it was going to be I'm not sure I would've done it. Go easy on yourself. Taking care of a newborn is hard on its own without adding in extra work. By around 5-6 months things felt a lot more manageable and I started to get back into a good rhythm with writing that didn't feel so overwhelming. 4 years and 2 kids in I still can't write at the pace I did before kids, but I'm happy with where I'm at and it works. It will come back. Just do what you can now, don't push yourself too hard, and know you'll be able to build your workload back up with time.

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