Money

I pay for the mortgage as I’m the one who’s house it is although it is also his home but not his house - is that makes sense? He’s not on the deeds etc. we then pay half of the bills each month and then half of everything for the baby (although I put more in as I earn more)

my partner is on benefits so “free money”, rent is paid for and he pays wifi, but everything else we split in half. normally we just pool our money, pay everything that needs paying, then whatever is left over we split in half so we have the same amount of disposable income. he definitely should be paying SOMETHING. whether it’s just his part of the food shop, or gas and electric.

Yes we split everything, rent is 50/50 and our bills are prob 60/40 w him paying a little more than me. He sounds like a loser….is he the father of your children?

Thanks girls yeah he is the father I just don't get why he's like this I'm obviously to soft he take 2.500 a month he said he's saving for us but I just don't get it he don't help with the kids like bath them of put them to bed breakfast take them out for the day so I can do something I'm not happy in our marriage for a long time but don't know how to tell him don't want to upset him but don't think he wants to be with us

Maybe just be honest and say this is not working and explain why. If he can’t listen to how you’re feeling then he’s not mature enough

That doesn’t make any sense to me. In my opinion a man should want to provide for his family and he’s not providing financially or in any way at all.

@Ragine I agree. A man should be willing to do anything and everything to provide.

For my relationship/household, whoever makes more will pay for rent. In my situation, when I was working, I was making more than my husband so I would pay the rent and whatever left will go towards the small bills. Then when he gets paid, he pays for the rest of the small bills we have. Now, that I’m a stay at home mother, he pays for everything.

Il try again

My husband pays for everything. Prior to us having our daughter I worked and my husband still paid for everything. I mostly used my money for like clothes and paid for an occasional date. It’s very concerning that he isn’t eager to take care of you or your babies… you shouldn’t have to ask. He knows life cost money I don’t see the point of a conversation honestly

@Taylor honestly I don’t know how people do it . I earn more than my partner and he’s still so eager wanting to pay everything . I literally have to beg to help him

This is wild. He should be bending over backwards to do whatever he can to help you. Tell this man that by a certain date of every month he owes you a set amount. How is he even comfortable with this set up is beyond me.

We 50/50 everything!

Not a straight split but I do rent gas electric water and he does WiFi and food. We spend a lot of money on food so it’s not far from equal besides obviously the rent but when we moved I had just been paid so everything was set in my name from my bank because it made sense. He also gets paid at the end of the month like everyone else and I get paid in the middle so it makes sense for his money to be “fun money” so we can go out with our friends because then they’ve also been paid or deals in the shops for toys and things. He also pays for all little things like if I wonna go buy a coffee I’ll use his card I don’t even have to ask

My husband pays for everything bills and household related.

My husband is the only income and pays everything and always has

My hubby is SAHD and so I pay for everything. But I don't have a problem because he does the cleaning and the kids during the day and handles bedtime for both kids. I feel like it's not about the money but about the sentiment of everyone contributing the best they can as a team.