Anxiety/ panic attacks when leaving baby anywhere without you. 😫
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My 3-year-old is still with me everywhere! Start with family or trusted people. Maybe also start with people around you and slowly step away. It does get better, but it can also take time. 💕
Hmm 🤔 maybe it is best for him to stay with me until he gets older. The only problem is I start college next month now all of my classes are online, but I was trying to look for a part-time job because I’ve been having a hard time finding remote positions . But also I want him to be around other kids and other people if he stays with me I can do my best to try to find museums or play areas for him to interact with other kids, but I don’t really socialize with people I don’t know so it’s just really hard. 😩 Also, even though my bills are taken care of, I don’t have anything else extra in case I need other stuff.This is why I’m really aiming to find a part-time job BUT let’s say I manage with everything I have and I do keep him home with me. There are times where I need a break just for my sanity even if it’s just 1-2 times a month 😫 it’s a very hard decision @Emma
I take my little girl to play groups. It's pretty cheap if you look around. 10 months is so young! Do you have any family that could watch him for an hour or 2 twice a week?!
Is there anybody you trust close by? Like a family member or a good friend? Hopefully if you have one of those I would start by having them come to you. And just be there in tandem but also start slowing by taking 10-15 minutes away and then gradually increase it. That way he knows you are coming right back and also you can both build a little trust and tolerance having space away from each other. Socialization is important but even more important is having a parent who is taking care of their mental health! Baby will be ok but you make sure you are ok first! Giving yourself that break and time alone will help more than you know
It’s normal for you and baby to be feeling this way-the bond is so strong during this time. I personally don’t agree with daycare that early but I get its the only option for some people. If there are family members or friends that baby is familiar with that is the best option if you need someone to watch them. But if they can be with you thats even better, you don’t have to worry about them being “sheltered” or “socializing” so much until like two-most important relationship right now is with mama
I live in the UK so a different context but I feel your pain. My oldest daughter is 2 and started daycare a few months ago and still cries at the gate. The first couple of months I cried so much as well in the car. She has recently turned a corner and is enjoying it once she is distracted. Go easy on yourself. You are obviously just such a fantastic mum and he loves you and missed you a lot! Don’t feel pressured to be separated if you don’t want to. However, I understand your work predicament and also your need for self-care time. My daughter goes to a smaller daycare with less children, she has found the transition easier. We also looked at childminders (people who run day care from their own homes). Could you explore a different setting? Whatever you decide, he won’t be sheltered if he stays at home, and he won’t be traumatised by going to daycare in the long run 🙏❤️ He will adapt and do great 🙏❤️
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Don’t fight against your natural motherly instinct. Daycare is connected to capitalism. If you wfh, keep that baby home. At 10 months old, you do not need to be worried about him being sheltered. I get it’s hard to focus 100% on work, but try a “mothers helper” situation, where someone comes to your house to help you out during some your working hours.
Do you need to put him in daycare?! If not, I'd take him out and wait till he's older! My daughter is 3.5 years old and isn't starting nursery till September. We tried twice and she got very distressed and I had to be called so I decided to leave it as I didn't need her to go i was just trying to see if she would enjoy it. We tried when she was around 2 and again about 8 months later.