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You have every right to feel upset about this. It’s not the hormones. I have a lot of friends who do this, but unfortunately it’s expected by friends. It is NOT expected by your own mother. That really sucks and it’s extremely frustrating. Don’t invalid your feelings. Everybody wants to help until you actually need help then everybody is nowhere to be found.
I got mum same with her, moody, old, bad diet, not social no husband anymore,, she only grandparents alive but its a mess, says she can help wants to etc but only in moment And SAYS come bringthem, why ru mad or moody, and I'm like, I'm sleep deprived and toddler or 2 babies and I can't even get to car or pack, more mental stress, I gotta pack food, cz all u have is eggs 90% peanut butter and just no pillows and knowing my kids have bed and it's clean ill do that instead. She tells me she had food... But if I dropthem she complains why didn't I cook anything for them... like seriously..bipolar. I drop them maybe 2 times year for night, maybe once.. since past 2yrs only once ... she is not good mum and ur mum gaslighting u. Old ppl are even more horrible than younger. I think ur mum always this way..u have to see it to accept it or live in delusion.. they are so convincing! As if they care..
I would be very upset by this, you would not expect but hope your own mother would be selfless enough to help you out after all, imagine what you would do for your own child. This behaviour is just quite selfish, I feel a lot of people seem to forget they still have responsibilities for grown up kids and grandchildren and in my view that's what we sign up for as parents. I would do anything for my son when he's grown and want to be kept part of his life as much as possible.