MIL triggered over how I raise my son?
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Are you JW? Do you celebrate birthdays Christmas etc, if so what’s her take on that too? I would try to separate from her as much as you can! More hassle than it’s worth!
@Charas I'm not, no. I was raised in a different religion and don't think it bothers her and it shouldn't. No offense at all but their religion is something I don't identify with at all. At the bottom of the list out of all religions. So I was raised in the opposite way - free to watch whatever I want, celebrate events, etc. It's uncomfortable to be around as it feels incredibly limiting and controlling to me but there's nothing I can do. It has made me consider divorce esp with disagreements with husband (he isn't religious tho) and he won't budge. It's not an option for him (another key feature of the religion. Divorce isn't taken lightly).
@Ariyana thank you - this is good advice and I'll try it next time she says something
Just tell her he is your son and not hers so you will do what you want with him. Also, your would prefer she keeps her opinions to herself in future. If she doesn't listen then tell her you and your child won't be spending time with her anymore as you won't be talked down too. Just make sure you stick to your words. She will have to either follow what you want or lose out. If my MIL commented 'excuse me you lady' I would have asked her who the hell she thought she was talking too. It would have come to a head right there and then. If you don't stand up to her she will talk to you like crap forever
@Kimberley thanks for this advice ♥️ next time I'll definitely try call her out on it. I just wasn't ready to start conflict and am trying to avoid it now because last time it caused family drama and I ended up looking like the aggressive woman and we're going on a little holiday today so was supposed to be packing that night. Otherwise I will definitely try call her out. I just get scared to look like the villain and I feel like I no longer have energy now
I always think how I would want my child to deal with a situation and know that this is the example that I need to show. Obviously she never sees me loose my temper, just that I won't let people walk all over me. I was brought up to be a people pleaser and it is only since I have had my daughter that I have changed. People treat you how you let them treat you
@Kimberley oh wow, I've actually never thought about it that way - my son seeing how to deal with people like that from me. That's actually more motivating - thank you for this perspective♥️ I will definitely speak up next time there's disrespect. Thanks again ☺️
I'm glad I could help. Feel free to message me if you ever want a vent.
Nicely respond to unsolicited advice by saying, anything that regards to my son, I’ll handle it. I had to tell that to a couple of family members and they usually hop off. It’s extremely frustrating. She already had her chance to raise her own children, this is your moment, do as you please, but u have to speak up or she’ll just keep doing it.