Is your child’s life being taken over by phones and ipads to the point its ruining their life, personality, interactions with others, is disorganized/ doesnt want to do anything, picks group chats and video calls over family, etc

Take away the technology and give him a detox from it. Teach your child that there is more to be enjoyed in life than technology. And then put a limit on technology when you give it back

Sounds like they need the technology taking away. My daughter is only 4 but doesn’t and won’t have an iPad for many years as I just don’t see why she needs one

My sister uses apps to restrict my nephews use

My 2 year old doesn’t have her own technology, the only thing we allow is 30 minutes of tv in the morning and 30 minutes of tv before bed

Whenever my daughter starts exhibiting these traits, she gets a phone ban. So no, as we prevent it before it happens. A week ban and it snaps her right back to reality. Sounds like you need to lay some ground rules and stick to them. He won’t die without his technology and it’ll actually make him feel better without it for abit. It’s important to make sure they don’t get into the habit of relying on their phone and it’s upto us parents to ensure it. My daughter is 11.

Girl huh?! Take that little boys electronics away and stop playing around. Be his parent and take all of his electronics away! If he gotta problem tell him to speak wit the police!

My step son is like this. It’s awful. His mom just wants him to leave her alone though so that’s been his comfort since he was 6 months old. It makes me sad for him. He detoxes when he’s with us and he becomes a kid again

Get him involved in a sport or an extra curricular activity that will occupy a good amount of time. I don’t believe in forcing kids to do things they don’t want to, but in the situation I would. This sounds extremely unhealthy.

Never had this problem

My nephews are like this. I think my sister is setting them up for failure... best nip it in the bud now with a detox. The hard part is following through, but it's gotta be done.

I put them in so many after school activities and classes that they enjoy I mean I was a dance mum for 14yrs, 2 girls doing 4 types of dance plus girl guides in the mix. If you can, ask them what sport or class or lesson they’d like to learn. I start em young though so they have hobbies and some kinda talent to bring w them into adulthood. My 19yr daughter now teaches kinder ballet alongside her lash course.

Maybe there’s some kind of way to wean him off it? Idk, I could be wrong but little by little, just slowly decrease screen time. It’s very concerning that he literally doesn’t like talking bc it’s “wasting time”

In her dreams! Nope I am Not one of those moms who don't care how much time a child spends online or in front of the TV. If it gets to the point you stated it's time for that child to go to therapy and have all devices taken away immediately

We’ve tried to put him in sports, we put him in soccer for a year with his friends and he didnt like it. we asked what he likes and he doesnt want to do sports. So we took him to a local temple that has free martial arts lessons for 2 hours every sunday. He eventually fought us because he didnt want to go anymore. We took away his electronics for a bit and he started throwing things around the house.

You’re got to ride out the awful behaviour, I’m afraid. Every time you give in, you’re inadvertently rewarding him by giving him the technology back. He needs a total black out. Keep reminding him that his poor behaviour will result in even longer without his devices back. You have to ride it out. You cannot be dictated to by a child. You are the adult. And you need to take control of this situation. Keep firm boundaries and maintain them regardless of his behaviour.

What is his social life like? Does he have a decent amount of friends?

Sounds like some tough love is needed, that’s not acceptable to be throwing things.

You should keep going. Let him get it all out of his system. It’s like coming down off of a drug because it’s also an addiction so you’re gonna see this wild behaviour, I’ve been through it too. Don’t give in though as you’ll teach him you’re weak and all he’s gotta do is be reckless to get what he wants. Ban it for longer if you have to. He will come out of it and feel so much better. Honestly you need to do this for the sake of his mental health.

@Brittany hes sociable in school, he talks to everyone. It seems like he has a lot of friends, a teacher once called and complained because he was talking to his friend while she was lecturing. I noticed he talks to his friends on his ipad too. But he is too consumed, he doesnt care about the world outside of electronics

@Donna Woods not sure why but hes been extremely picky with food for the past year. He gags at every food he sees/smells. A lot of the foods he used to eat, he’s stopped completely. He looks up and watches a lot of food reels (youtube history). But then hes so disconnected when he sees food irl. My daughter told him that he looks like a skeleton because she saw his arms. He had the biggest meltdown, he started screaming and crying. He threw his shoe while my husband was driving and kept screaming. He refused to leave the house when we took his phone/ipad and threaten to kill someone

I’d be weening him off of it! My son started showing some signs of this before as a two year old with tv. And we did a cold turkey detox for a week or two. The first two days were rough but in the end he became a different kid! So much better at regulating his emotions, found other things he enjoyed, became more active and more social. I also found I became more present as a parent. It’s tough but girl, when it starts affecting eating it’s serious. I hope you can detox him and help guide him in the right direction before it becomes an eating disorder.

Could it be AFRID?

He is a child, you allow this behavior by giving in to his bad behavior! He wants to destroy stuff tell him you will call the cops! Trust me if you’re in a decent area the cops will not mind at all. They do it a lot. If he’s destroying and throwing things call the non emergent hotline let the operator know you’ve been having issues wit your child’s bad behavior and if they could send a car out to speak to the child. They can also refer and give you advice and information on you to family therapy and such (if they were trained properly 🤦🏽‍♀️) Yall cant just give children stuff without no consequences or discipline. This is the result of not doing that.

@Claudette ❤️ please dont assume. I said martial arts. Clearly its a Buddhist temple. I came here for advice, not to be lectured on what area lm living in. Why comment when you have nothing beneficial to say? Who cares if this ain’t your shit. No one asked you about that.