Horrible partner or overreacting?

I’ve been diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum in my pregnancy. Luckily, my medication has been working to stop me from being sick but it leaves me feeling super drowsy. Whenever I explain to my partner that I’m tired or to help out with the laundry or our 18 month old son he just complains saying that I’m always tired, even before I was pregnant (I’m anaemic). Anyway, fast forward today. It’s midnight. We are both awake. I felt like I was going to be sick for the first time in weeks and so I knew I wouldn’t make it upstairs and so I ran to the kitchen. All he did was complain about how I was going to block the sink. Now I had cleaned the whole kitchen earlier that day and he left dirty dishes in the sink which I asked him to move. He just grumbled and complained and then as I thought so, I was sick, several times. He could hear me. He didn’t come over and check on me. When I was finished I laid on the floor in our living room, in the room he was in and he just turned on his phone and flicked through the reels. He didn’t look at me. He didn’t acknowledge me. He didn’t ask if I’m okay.

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More than horrible partner, horrible human being. A complete stranger could be throwing up in front of me and I’d be concerned, let alone my PREGNANT partner. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Do you have family or a friend that you & your kid could move in with or they move in with you for the duration of this pregnancy.. to help you?

@Mariam not particularly, it’s just so embarrassing so I don’t want anyone to know

He is a horrible partner. Definitely you are not overreacting. I have suffered on my first pregnancy with hypermesis and is the worst thing, I didn’t use medication but I ended several times in hospital till it stopped at 16 weeks. My husband was supportive and taking me to hospital every time I felt that bad. I feel so sorry for you and cannot imagine what I would do on that situation

@Imelda I just don’t know what to do. I have nowhere to go. I feel so trapped

I’m so sorry your partner has treated you like this. Please don’t be embarrassed to ask for help elsewhere, it’s your partner who should be embarrassed by his disgusting actions. I hope you feel better soon

@Chloé Collier I am embarrassed because I don’t talk to my sister as she’s in the same position and I always called her a donut and now this is my karma and I can’t have my whole family know it

Sickness in pregnancy is not something he should be taking lightly it is awful and exhausting and can be painful aswel. He should be more understanding in my opinion my partner was so helpful while I was going through HG in my first trimester he held my hair back and brought me water. He still does loads for me now as he is so understanding of the toll pregnacy is taking on my body. In my opinion how a man treats you during pregnancy is how he will always treat you in sickness and in health. Please think about your needs an emotional wellbeing and how he is making you feel in yourself xxx

Update ; so we’ve now communicated and he’s said that the reason why he didn’t ask me if I was okay was because he was angry at me from an argument we had where I gave him the list of things to do to help around the house. I think he’s just so childish to react like this

Sorry but no there’s no excuses on his part for the way he’s treating u hun ,Is he growing a child and struggling with illness day in day out no he’s not u need support darlin not someone that’s ignoring u and belittling u

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