Please no judgement
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Just curious why you stayed when he already had an affair
Men that emotionally check out are in rainbow land and unfortunately some never come back. I’m sorry, 😞 I hope that you have some sort of support system to help you
I am in the same mindset. Just more years into it and I would just rather be single at this point. I haven't left, and with how things are in the world, I won't be able to. I love this house. It's old and needs lots of updates, but we worked our asses off for it. Just in time, too. In 2015. Our little house we bought for 177k could now sell for $400k even with how much work it needs done It has a near mint condition, 23 yr old pool. Has space between the houses. You know, b/c it was built in 1984. No one is any danger here, so it isn't dire that the kids and I leave or anything. I'm self-employed, though. But yeah. I understand where you're coming from.
I love being married and having a family! I don’t like the single life. Divorcing and being alone scares me. We have spoken a million times. He tries to change but he is who he is. I am just tired of explaining how he needs to treat me. I just want to be treated well without showing him how to do it.
@Amy he cried and apologized a million times. We moved countries shortly after and I thought is a new beginning. 8 months have gone by and I am still hurt and messed up
@Elaina I have absolutely nobody. I think some times, if I were to separate and have a rough night, who is coming to support me? Nobody, I have nobody
I don’t think what you are thinking is cheating but I’m just a little confused on why you want a divorce if you say you love being married. Have you told him how you feel or tried marriage counseling? I personally would try everything to make the marriage work before getting a divorce. But if it’s not healthy/right for you then I would say definitely get a divorce.