Please help, feeling like a failure mum recently
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I wanted to take my son out of nursery. He did 2 trial days (got sick) then 2 full days and now sick. He's had earache, cold and now a chesty cough and missed his last 2 weeks of nursery because he's been so clingy, throwing up and refusing any food. He's then passed it onto me and I ended up with pneumonia and I'm petrified when he goes back this week he'll only be sick again. We saw a dr at a&e due to an emergency trip and she advised in a child's 1st year at nursery, the average amount they'll pick something up is 8 times but after that their immune system is really strong and the next bout of sickness (likely winter) they should only pick up the standard cold once if at all. It sounds horrible and I know it's hard but perseverance is key though it doesn't seem it right now coz eventually it'll happen whether it's nursery or school and school is harder to keep them off at home. Sending you lots of love mama xx
Honestly the first 6 months of nursery are not for the faint hearted 😂. My lo has been in nursery since she was 9 months old because I can’t afford not to work and my oh works away all week. She started in June so it wasn’t so bad because it wasn’t flu season but through December and January she was in the process of doing setting in sessions for the next room (which then changed to 2 room up) so she was being exposed to the germs of three different rooms and it wasn’t flu season awful, we had conjunctivitis 3 times, sickness bugs twice, chicken pox, she had a constant cold, and she was basically living on calpol because at least once a week she’d get a temperature. She has been in the next room since the beginning of Feb and has only had one cold this month. It is hard work but it does get better. Could you take him with you when you have to do stuff and get him to help? As for speaking and development try not to worry too much about that, all babies develop at their own pace.
Nursery side the illness is 🙈😬however everyone with older kids says to me this is the worst Winter and we will get through it so I hope you do too 🤩.
Don’t give up. The nursery helps with development and speech :) as someone said the nursery sickness isn’t for the faint hearted. I knew she would get sick I just didn’t think I would as well. she was with childminder before and wasn’t this sick and joined nursery in October and since then it’s disease roulette. I hope once the nicer weather starts it will ease off.
Completely feel this, every week is something new with symptoms up to 5+ days, it can be relentless. I actually did take my son out of nursery though for 2 months because he was found to be anaemic which was making it harder for him to get over these illnesses. He's been discharged from his paediatrician & is back in nursery now, he still gets sick but nowhere near as severe as before xx
@Rebecca sorry to jump here but how did you find out about your son being anemic, if you don't mind me asking?
Hey it will get easier ! I know from working with little ones who spoke multiple languages at home , and now teaching my own little one BSL / SSE and English at home. Sometimes as babies brains develop they have to make multiple connections for the same word. It doesn't mean their behind at all! Or they may speak in all languages they know in one sentence sometimes. As for nursery and getting sick- its one of the only down sides x
Aw my love, the first month of nursery is like this and it sucks but it does get better. I wanted my son to quit when he went through the same thing but a. It actually builds their immune systems and b. He now loves nursery. You're not failing, juggling all the stuff is hard. If he is trilingual that must be hard for him and you because there is so many things happening in his brain. Does your husband work every night?