Can't stand my husband!

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Why keep having back to back kids with him?

Sounds like you’ve tolerated this for a long time and he’s just gotten used to it. Set some boundaries and have that convo for your sanity. It’s hard to keep a relationship and love going for one another if there’s a lot of resentment.

Then it's time to have a serious talk with him. Be blunt and honest about everything. Also, don't give him access to your womb anymore because obviously he doesn't know how to act like a real partner. If you can, leave him with the kids for a few hours. Let him get a taste of what you go for every day.

Have a heart to heart talk with him and require him to do more…when he is not tired and not doing much of anything ask him to help and let him know that’s what you need from him…you can’t do it all by yourself even if he does work…the resentment that is building within you can be super destructive to your marriage…Forgiveness is key even though he is not giving you what you need around the house and with the kids…he is human and try and resolve that conflict now when you are calm and not blowing up at him…men are not wired the way we are, but if he loves you he will help out more around the house and with the kids because marriage is not selfish it’s selfless

This is not to be mean I sware...but why keep having kids with him? Surely it's no accident every time, we mothers know how getting pregnant works and steps to prevent it. It seems like his lack of being a present parent is what bothers you most so this is not entirely his fault if you continue to allow it and have kids with him. Also, you said you don't want to leave him...but can't stand his presence. That also seems confusing. If you choose to stay then you have to fix the problem by talking about these issues and addressing them head on otherwise they will just get worse and you are both to blame at that point. Sorry I really don't want this to sound harsh it's just the fact you keep having kids with him when you said he's like this with every one of them that makes it hard to empathize with the situation.

So why not just let him leave and someone else can appreciate him

@Honey @Angel🪽 @Jen pregnancies 1 and 2 planned pregnancy 3 got pregnant on the coil! Pregnancy 4 got pregnant got pregnant on the pill! So your guess is as good as mine, why I keep having children. Also, never did i mention i don't like him, but during pregnancy, I can't stand him. I said I don't want to leave him, so people understood that that's not what I'm saying. I'm not in a horrible hate, my husband situation. I just can't stand him most of my pregnancy.

I also am having a hard time understanding why you keep having back-to-back kids a year(ish) apart with him. That’s a HUGE undertaking, especially with an uninvolved partner. Definitely talk with him and share how you need him to step up more at home and with the kids.

@Andrea @Yasmina definitely a little resentment especially when he's sick and I know i need to set boundaries but other than being pregnant I like the dynamic. I like the opportunity of being a sahm mum I'm homeschooling and country living and because he has long days i allow him to rest and don't trouble him with house things. But when I am pregnant.. it does get to me.

@Sophie Jones let him leave? What?! Did I say i was holding him against his will?!

Why are you still with him & having your 4th child with him then?

Honestly think that you should have an honest conversation with him and let him know how you feel or maybe see a therapist might help with the feelings towards him. Praying for you girly. Hoping everyone in your family get better soon.