Am I overreacting?
Show your support
Not overreacting imo! You should probably have a conversation with her. That’s not right. Even my MIL, who has been a bit complicated lately, was super excited to meet the baby. My mom was about to cry when they told her she couldn’t stay the night at the hospital after the baby was born and showed up first thing in the morning along with MIL the day after. However, if you feel like your kids will be better off without her, then that’s a conversation that should happen as well. Make it clear to her that if she doesn’t put effort into having a relationship with them, you won’t either. THIS IS PURELY MY OPINION though. You gotta do what’s best for your family. Good luck!
not at all, and I’m so sorry :( I was/am upset that my MIL has made no effort to see my 2 month old (where she was on the first flight out for both of my brother and sister in laws kids…) I’m sure your baby is wonderful and she’s definitely missing out
That’s not an overreaction, i would be upset if my mom never came over to see my son. I am not saying to cut your mom off but make sure you put you first. If she makes you upset maybe some distance will be best if she is not willing to see your side.
I’m so sorry, not trying to make assumptions but it seems like she has her own hurts. That’s the only reason I would think a grandmother wouldn’t want to meet her grandchild.
I would definitely feel a kind of way. My family lives 8-9 hours away and they haven’t visited yet either and I’m salty about it. Can’t imagine how I would feel if they were only 20 minutes away…
@Noemi Nunez I’m glad my in laws love on my kids enough that they don’t even notice my family’s not around. But yeah I guess I should say something. I just hate confrontation so I always keep everything to myself… but then we have issues like this that never get addressed. I even have to be the one to call her, if I don’t for a couple of weeks she’s like oh what’s wrong? Are you ignoring me? 😑 I just can’t win with her.
@Hannah im sorry this is happening to you too! 😔 thankfully my in laws are obsessed with my kids so at least they have one set of grandparents that are around. It just bothers me so much that my family couldn’t care less.
@Brittany I don’t really have to interact with her my unless I call her to see what she’s up to or she needs something from me. I guess the only good thing to come out of this is I definitely know what kind of parent/grandparent I don’t want to be when my kids are older. 😑
@Lauren see idk if it’s just that she feels she’s not needed or what? She was present at my first birth but after that it’s always just been my husband. She came to see every baby after that, but this time around even though she was excited I was pregnant, she hasn’t done a single thing. Like I get she’s on a fixed income, I don’t need her to buy anything (I’ve told her this) but her time is free. She’s apologized before for not being an ideal grandma but never does anything to change. It’s just frustrating…
@Dii right?! I just don’t get it. And she’s had the nerve to say she wished I didn’t live that far. lol like it’s not far all. 🫠
No I would definitely feel the same way.
No, you're not overthinking, and why should you have to go over to her house I absolutely wouldn't dog or no dog, i find it bizarre she hasn't been to see your baby yet she must be a very cold unloving mum. I also have a 3.5 year old and my mum comes to see us twice a week ever since my first baby was born, we go to the park together, play class, or just stay home and play and have cuddles with baby. Sorry you have a mum like this ❤️
No, you’re not overreacting. It is hurtful. I went through this with my MIL. She wouldn’t see my daughter the first 7 weeks. Same thing, always made excuses when we invited her over. We had to literally pop up at his mom’s house (and that didn’t go as well either). Honestly, my husband had to have a come to Jesus moment with her and let her know how he felt. But at the end of the day, MILs who act like that have deep rooted hurt, insecurity and jealousy issues. You’re not overreacting. It’s not up to you to figure that out. I hope you are enjoying the 2-month old even w/o the MIL!
I would feel a type of way