MIL rude comments about new baby

My partner has 2 kids from a previous relationship (8 & 10) who my MIL and FIL absolutely adore and are clearly the favourite grandkids. We had our first daughter 2 years ago and while MIL & FIL do come around to see her, it's always when the other 2 SK's are here and they interact more with the other 2. I mostly just ignore this and put it down to the fact they're older. Now I'm currently pregnant with our second baby and my hubby told his parents last night, whilst I was upstairs sorting our daughter. Their response was literally 'oh I hope your not considering having any more' and 'you need to book in for the snip', not a single congratulations to either of us. It's got nothing to do with childcare or anything as they've never looked after our daughter for us. This pissed me off massively and I just got into a row with hubby as he said they just worry about the older 2 SK's as 4 is a lot, but I just think those comments are out of order. I said I'm going to message his mum to let her know her comments have upset me, but he's saying to leave it. I'm so upset that they aren't happy for us and feel like my new babies grandparents don't even want him. All they care about is the older 2 SK's which pisses me off massively and I can't even be assed to see either of them now. Would this upset you and would you say something or am I being stupid?
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First of all congratulations ♥️ I’m so sorry to hear this. My situation isn’t the same but there’s aspects I can relate too. My initial reaction would be to say something but I did this recently and honestly it has made the whole thing worse (in a way as I’m actually happy I said my piece BUT my MIL is now blocked soooo) 🤣🤣🙃🙃🙃 I don’t have much more to say or suggest than sorry and please pop my a message if you need to rant because as I said, been here in a way! X

Well congratulations to you 🩷✨ Maybe MIL needs to visit her “favourite” GK’s when they’re at their mother’s house instead of coming to you when they visibly do not bother with your children. If your husband won’t let you say anything then he isn’t advocating for his “new” family, I understand the first two children are just as important however, he should tell his mum to back off. My MIL doesn’t really bother, my boy is nearly 8 months old, has said multiple times she’s “done being a grandparent” at the ripe age of 48(?) years old as my partner has 3 children from previous relationship. She has more time for her dogs, she even waved a dog treat infront of my son trying to get his attention saying “what’s this” 🫠 like he is an actual dog. Our first pregnancy ended in TFMR as the baby had anencephaly but before we found out she said “the baby looks like an alien” 😵‍💫🥴

I feel this to my core! Exact reason why we’re going to keep baby no2 a secret when the time comes.

Massive congratulations… And if they think four is bad try having five and we mange just fine with our blended family. Don’t listen to negative comments they’re just rude… you got this mamma 🫶🏻

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