Am I wrong?

Wait …. An ADULT’S birthday requesting gifts?

Yeah that's really tacky

Lol, you can put gift inspo for a kids birthday cause people probably don't know your kids interests. You can't put it for an adult. Plus I can't remember the last time I bought an adult friend a birthday present. I usually have to travel to see them anyways.

She sounds like an entitled madam. I’d not be RSVPing to that invite.

I have never heard of such a thing. I’m sure not many people are going to show up for her birthday. I wouldn’t even request gifts for a wedding. Your presence alone would be enough for me.

I thought this was about a kids birthday party at first 😂😂 that’s crazy

@Elizabeth Also the suggested gifts include makeup, skin care items, jewelry/accessories, gift cards, art and photography supplies, and subscription boxes.

Oh woah I read it wrong. Yes that's tacky if the party is for her Grown Self yes that lame lol

Is she requesting pricey gifts? Or something within people’s means? If it’s the 2nd I can see where she’s coming from, eve thought I wouldn’t have done it myself

I thought this was for a baby then I kepted reading it😬 tbh it’s ur option to bring a gift as they are 25 or 30 like maam ur old enough to get ur own stuff I stopped getting birthday gifts at 12!? And u expect other to get u a gift like no. I get the byob cuz if u wanna drink and stuff I get but if not then I see no point. If u wanted to be nice a card and maybe 20$ but for them to say text the bf of the gift making it seem like they are expecting everyone to bring a gift and to see what or how much ur spending is wrong.

Idk unpopular opinion idk why you can’t want gifts as an adult. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I actually find it tacky to show up empty handed

I would give a card and maybe $20 or a Starbucks gift card. Gifts aren’t necessary for adults imo

I actually thought this post was about a child lol

Its nice to receive gifts no matter your age but to request gifts is weird....

That’s absolutely ridiculous!🥴 I just wouldn’t be going or I’ll go but she wouldn’t be getting a gift! But she would get a card! 😂I had to go back and read because at first I thought you were talking about a kids party 😂

That is wild 😂

@Daija I agree with giving gifts to adults (gifts are my love language 😅) ! I just can't imagine making people text what they got me to avoid overlap or even asking for a gift in the way this invitation is saying 🫢

I’d be busy on that short of a notice 😆

@Grace yea it was worded a little weird I just also don’t know how else to say you want gifts lol

It’s fucking tacky and if you say any different—fuck out of here. Gifts are not a requirement for a part, they are nice gestures that people offer to the birthday girl/boy. Don’t ever expect gifts for yourself or children. I think creating a wishlist or some kind of idea of what people should get is fine…for a fucking child. Because yah, I need to know what the child’s clothing size, shoe size and toys/books that would love to play with. For an adult, this is weird as hell. To even anticipate a gift for yourself (grown ass adult) from other grown ass adults is funny. And then to then request that these grown ass adults tell ur man exactly what they’re buying is funny. Everyone’s budget is different. Maybe I can only afford a candle and a nice note. Or maybe I can afford to get you a luxury handbag or brand name make up. But don’t assume everyone’s in the same tax bracket or is willing to spend the same amount of money even if they’re in the same tax bracket. And additionally

Don’t fucking ask me to bring my own alcohol to your event. If you’re hosting an event, supple what you can. don’t ask people to bring shit to your birthday party (food, dessert, drinks, decorations, ect). If you’re balling on a budget, fine. Not an issue but don’t ball on a budget and then demand nice gifts. Disrespectful. This is like people inviting you out for a birthday dinner at an upscale restaurant then making you pay. Like wtf, what if I can’t afford this restaurant. If you’re hosting the birthday party (where it might be) PAY FOR IT., especially if your ass is basically assuming your people are gifting you. Accept the invite. Get her a $10-20 gift card (gas, groceries, to a favorite restaurant or store). This is extremely GENEROUS. Plus, who doesn’t love a gift card. Because it’s about “the thought that counts”.

Lol I read this thinking it was a kids birthday party and still voted tacky.

@Elizabeth all of us thinking it’s a kids birthday 😂😂

I would honestly people just ask for money or vouchers than this!

Great idea for kids party. Weird for adults. I’ve never been to an adult’s birthday party that gifts were expected. Bring food bring booze bring yourself but never expected to bring a gift before.

@Savannah that's honestly absurd, and weird. A birthday for an adult...i would gift a bottle of wine. Those expected gifts don't really seem realistic to ask friends to buy them. It's giving, i can't afford these things so I'm going to ask my friends to buy them for me. Gift cards are alright, but what adult has a birthday with specific gifts.

In the beginning, I thought you were overreacting because I thought it was a kid's party 😅😅 But for an adult, yeah, it is tacky

There's nothing wrong with enjoying receiving gifts as an adult, but to actually write a wishlist requesting things from guests is just really rude, in my opinion.

The ONLY acceptable time to write a gift list is when getting married or writing to Santa…….

Not going to lie this would put me off even going to the party but I'm not very sociable so 🤷 I think this seems pretty ridiculous and over the top.

Automatically assumed this was for a child 🙈😂😂

I mean, the way she did it was weird. Maybe they could have said , " For example, "if you feel like or want to get me a gift, I have a wish list on Amazon, Walmart, Target.. " Ect.. ect.. Which would at least take the weirdness outta saying let's all not get the same gift.. why would she even worry about that..

Wait… this is for a grown adult… um ew. You don’t have parties and expect gifts…. Especially on a short notice invite wanting people to come and buy you something on you’re wish list. Sorry but that’s so tacky on her behalf. I wouldn’t be going, I’d be busy and all my friends birthdays if we are invited out for dinner it’s because we all just want each others company, not for gifts….

I’m guessing she is struggling financially and can’t buy these things herself… I’m not saying it’s not tacky. But I am saying, it’s hard being an adult and not being able to afford the stuff you want (or the stuff you think everyone else has). And you don’t to buy her something just cuz she’s asking!

I wouldnt do this for a child's party nevermind adults 😅 embarrassing!

I'd just send my apologies, and not go 🤣

A weeks notice? I wouldn’t be going anyway. As an adult requesting gifts? Definitely not going! If she put “if you would like to give a gift then xyz” Give a card with maybe a gift card for coffee or a note in the card saying you’ll take her for coffee, your gift is more your time than a pricey gift. Or a note saying you donated £10 to “x” charity in her name. Iv been to adult parties and they state no gifts just donations to a charity.

I have an Amazon wish list for my kid…..but only would send a link if someone asked for ideas. Requesting gifts at a byob party for an adult is crazy