Any Advice

Im 33 weeks and we've kind of been going through the same thing the past few months. He says its because every time we do i end up spotting. I tell him over and over it's normal but he really just doesn't like putting me through anything extra on top of everything we already go through being pregnant. As hard as it is i'd try not to take it too personally. I'm sure it has nothing to do with you mama🫶🏻

When it comes to him thinking he will hurt the baby or you with contractions just try to explain that sexual intercourse in most forms does help. I've talked to my ob about it because I was worried about it as well as doing my own research. My husband and I haven't exactly been super sexually active but he's also there for just about every appointment and whenever I'm concerned with something he tends to get concerned as well. I don't believe it has anything to do with you, he could just be worried and not know how to express it properly as well

My husband and I have always emphasized honesty in our relationship, and recently he opened up to me about something that was hard for both of us. He admitted that he’s been struggling to feel sexually attracted to me because of how my body looks (my big pregnant belly), and his thoughts get in the way. While I appreciate his honesty and know he’s a great husband who supports me in so many ways, hearing this hurt me deeply. It’s left me feeling so insecure, and I’m not sure how to move past it after pregnancy. This has shaken my confidence to the point that now I’m the one that doesn’t have more desire, and I’m struggling to process it.

My husband and i have only had sex twice my whole pregnancy. He’s struggling with it because the baby is a separate entity from me and he can see him move around and he’s Weirded out it. I can’t fault him. It’s kind weird from his perspective. But he does go out of his way to find other ways to connect, non sexual. we go on dates more frequently and we find different ways for physical touch. And we both know as soon as I’m healed after baby and we’re ready to resume activities, we will!!

As my belly started growing larger my husband also let me know he's afraid to hurt me or the baby if we have sex. I was personally kind of fine with this because I felt so heavy and tired lol but what I will say is if he is expressing being scared, it's probably because he cares so deeply about you and the baby. He's likely thinking he would rather be cautious and sacrifice his needs to keep you both safe. Of course in reality we know its safe, but they don't know better. Every pregnant woman is beautiful because you're growing life inside of you so try not to take it personally if you can 💛

@Jessica it has definitely caused major insecurities in me, even though a part of me is like it’s just cause of the baby we should be able to move past it afterwards, but I feel like you like how do you move past that? I felt so unwanted this entire time.

Yup, I felt unwanted. I was struggling already with the body changes and that got so much worse. Anyways, I hope everything will get better after birth

Honestly I feel like a lot of men struggle with hurting our feelings while we are pregnant and our bodies are going through so many changes. The only thing you can do is have an honest conversation with him. If you are interested in sex and he's apprehensive maybe set up a safe word or boundaries for how far you go. Also talk to your OB if they say it's safe to do so then have at it. I struggled with having sex during my first pregnancy but my husband and I have been intimate twice if not three times a week this pregnancy. Every pregnancy is different and only you know you feel in your own body.

Me and my partner didn’t have sex for the entirety of my pregnancy and the following 3 months after .. I personally didn’t want him anywhere near me in that way lol xx

Girllll I went and am currently going through the same

Same, I think we’ve only been intimate twice since getting pregnant and I initiated it both times. I’m pretty bitter about it so just stopped trying. It sucks and definitely took a toll on my confidence as well.

Same. I’m a little bitter. I’ve made rude comments to him about it on occasion. You’re not alone. I’m honestly most terrified that we’ll never go back to normal once this baby comes… but, I can’t do anything about it right now. So I’ll have to wait and see.